I watched Sex and the city for the first time last summer (shocking I know) and along with many other films / shows and my own amazing friends it kinda changed the way I thought about everything dating and friends wise. Hopefully I am exaggerating I probably realised these things before last summer but every time I re-watch it it reinforces things like how we should just chill out about dating.
I’m trying to be more relaxed about dating and stop with the asking the group chat how I should reply to his weird text and not to put as much pressure on myself for example on those nights we go out with the intention of pulling, yeah they should stop.
I have always been good at just being myself from day one, I don’t want to put on a more ‘professional’ / ‘glamorous’ or ‘cool’ version of myself as someone gets to know me, what is the point.
Last year at uni I had a pretty tricky living situation living and I felt like I was living on my own most of the time but I actually grew to love it. Mainly for totally selfish reasons like having complete control over the tele. Due to my part time jobs in Falmouth I’ve gone back to university pretty early and am living in our new house (with different housemates this year don’t worry) on my own for a few weeks. Honestly its harder than I thought, well only after 9pm when its darker, the spiders start to appear and as its technically flats there’s always noises from the building so its a little bit creepy but I’m getting used to it.
Hat – Topshop / Top – Urban outfitters / Trousers – TU at Sainsburys / Shoes – Zara
So I’ve been learning to love my own company, eating out or going to the cinema on my own is totally fine. I love going on little adventures to exploring new towns or long walks on my own too its just super relaxing. I’m not going as far to say all that crap about ‘dating yourself” but I am understanding the importance of taking time to yourself and not depending on company.
P.S hope you enjoyed this wordy style of post from me.
Love Charlotte
xxx